What if Your problems have nothing to do with an eating disorder?
How often do I talk to people and hear, “This (…)happened to me, so I developed an eating disorder “? Bad things happened to many other people, and they haven’t developed an ED (eating disorder).
Just because something wrong happened to you in the past doesn’t mean you must suffer today
But
Because something wrong happened to you in the past, you must be happy today, as you are stronger and wiser and you have built deep roots, so the branches could grow and shine in the sun.
The bad situation might have triggered an eating disorder, but it’s not the sole cause. We are genetically inclined to it. What if that’s all there is to it. If you see it this way, it will be easier to recover from the eating disorder without focusing too much on life problems.
There will be many times when you experience drama and tears. And it doesn’t mean that each time you will relapse. It’s completely untrue!
Then why?
The main reason for the restrictive eating disorder is that you restrict food in the form of starvation, being bulimic, exercising, or constantly dieting. The reason that started such self-harm is because no one ever taught you how to love yourself properly.
Your brain has developed a pathway, which you have been following and reinforcing each time you starve yourself.
The key to stopping this is first to realise that, yes, you restrict, and you harm yourself by the punishment of starvation. Each time your body tries to re-feed and heal, you feel guilt and step back into the cycle of restricting.
Do you realise how much damage starvation causes to your body? Your bones, hair, muscles, and skin suffer. Your body screams for nutrition! That’s why you want to eat and eat. That may look like a lot of food, but it’s not. If you trust your body and trust the process, your mind will calm down, and you will find the balance.
Misleading such a state of body and mind with other life problems is wrong.
If the body and mind are healthy, you will conquer any problem and challenge in life!
The key is to be kind and love yourself. I know it is easy to say, but not for me. It took me 35 years to learn to properly love myself. Because, what does it mean to love yourself? I always heard from people “Love yourself.” Brilliant. But how? There are many kinds of love. I suppose my self-love wasn’t right, even if I was thinking I was loving myself. Stop for a minute! Stop for an hour. Who are you?
I would rather say that learning to love yourself is a journey with ups and downs.
My journey has had some serious storms, floods and fires. But hey, here I am. Happy and alive!
You cannot wake up in the morning and say “Wow, I see now how to love myself.” It is a process. Just as recovering from ED. But, You can wake up every morning and say “I choose to love myself.” I think that the journey to loving yourself has many ingredients and the most important are:
- You are important
- You deserve to be heard
- You deserve love and respect
- You deserve your own time, so you can listen to your inner child. You can hear yourself.
- Yes, Pamper yourself. There is nothing better than being simply kind to yourself.
- You are allowed to make mistakes as they make you a real human being
- Your worth is priceless. If someone doesn’t value you enough, they are not worth your time.
- Blaming you is just a sign of someone’s weakness. Let the water come, your ship can handle anything.
- Your life, your rules. Paint it the way you want and with the colours of your soul.
- You deserve to be happy
You are your own best friend. If you respect yourself, everyone and everything else will sense it, and everything that you don’t wish in your life, will disappear.
Love and Light
Kasia
The Power in You 